Hello everyone! I'm back! Well, for as long as I can find things to blog about.

Anyway I'm pretty sure that I'm not alone in finding it extremely awkward to receive compliments. This topic came up the other day in maths, and it was suggested that we take a compliment as a gift. I never know what to say though. If someone compliments me (hardly ever), I just find it a bit cocky to say thanks sometimes. I guess cocky isn't the right word, but I feel uncomfortable saying thanks. It feels as though I'm agreeing to the compliment.

If someone says ,'Hey Tonia, I like your hair today', I don't want to say 'Thanks', because it makes me feel as though I'm saying , 'Well, of course! My hair is obviously the best' AWKWARD

I find that most people (including me), when hit with a compliment, just deny it by saying, 'Psh, No. Are you blind/crazy/stupid/insane' Or just give them a T_T look. But since everyone does that so much now, it no longer works, and the person who gave the compliment will now just say 'Oh, you're just being modessssttt' And it's like a cycle! Because you reply, 'Nooo, I'm not modest' and then it just keeps going on and on.

Another thing that annoys me about compliments, is that for some strange reason, when someone receives a compliment, they always feel obliged to give one back to the person who gave it to them. And sometimes, quite unfortunately, you just don't have anything to say back to them

'Oh WOW, you look absolutely GORGEOUS TODAY! Your hair is so nice and your dress is so pretty!' 'Um … hahaha … uhh … I like your … belt .. ?' AWKWARD

But yes. I think as necessary as it feels we SHOULD NOT return compliments if we can't think of anything to say. If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything (Y) And I think that we shouldn't be 'modest' and just say thank you and accept the compliment. It's not even being modest if you deny and reject the compliment, because when people say 'Oh, I like your shoes', and in return you say, 'Wtf. They're so ugly >_>' That's kind of dissing their taste, and making it seem as though your opinion is the most important, which is the COMPLETE OPPOSITE of what modest is. So yes. You're cool. Accept that compliment J

- tonia

Hello everyone! I'm back! Well, for as long as I can find things to blog about.

Anyway I'm pretty sure that I'm not alone in finding it extremely awkward to receive compliments. This topic came up the other day in maths, and it was suggested that we take a compliment as a gift. I never know what to say though. If someone compliments me (hardly ever), I just find it a bit cocky to say thanks sometimes. I guess cocky isn't the right word, but I feel uncomfortable saying thanks. It feels as though I'm agreeing to the compliment.

If someone says ,'Hey Tonia, I like your hair today', I don't want to say 'Thanks', because it makes me feel as though I'm saying , 'Well, of course! My hair is obviously the best' AWKWARD

I find that most people (including me), when hit with a compliment, just deny it by saying, 'Psh, No. Are you blind/crazy/stupid/insane' Or just give them a T_T look. But since everyone does that so much now, it no longer works, and the person who gave the compliment will now just say 'Oh, you're just being modessssttt' And it's like a cycle! Because you reply, 'Nooo, I'm not modest' and then it just keeps going on and on.

Another thing that annoys me about compliments, is that for some strange reason, when someone receives a compliment, they always feel obliged to give one back to the person who gave it to them. And sometimes, quite unfortunately, you just don't have anything to say back to them

'Oh WOW, you look absolutely GORGEOUS TODAY! Your hair is so nice and your dress is so pretty!' 'Um … hahaha … uhh … I like your … belt .. ?' AWKWARD

But yes. I think as necessary as it feels we SHOULD NOT return compliments if we can't think of anything to say. If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything (Y) And I think that we shouldn't be 'modest' and just say thank you and accept the compliment. It's not even being modest if you deny and reject the compliment, because when people say 'Oh, I like your shoes', and in return you say, 'Wtf. They're so ugly >_>' That's kind of dissing their taste, and making it seem as though your opinion is the most important, which is the COMPLETE OPPOSITE of what modest is. So yes. You're cool. Accept that compliment J

- tonia